Obesety and Marriage

Back in school days.. all my friends where thin and beautiful, they all knew how to dance very nicely and talked like mature women – in that case i mean like my mother and her friends- they used to wonder who will get married first and how they want their husband to be like and the rest of prince charming thoughts of teenage girls.

On our graduation day from high school all the girls gathered and each one of them pointed her opinion on who will get married first.. they pointed on every single girl in the group and i was left out, counted as i will get married. Every one believed that i will never get married because of my big full figure, they all said “yeah you will be the last one to get married unless you lose your fat” I even remember once one of my friends’ aunts said ” Zeena shouldn’t think of her white dress, who wants a big girl” And there my weight loss fight started.

I always wondered what is wrong with big girls, we have feelings too , we can love better than those Modelish (superficial girls) ones, we can even make a man happy without spending all his bank account. Since then i started to meet big girls. I thought maybe the giggley fat is disgusting or maybe men built ideas in their head or maybe women build those ideas in mens head..! I wonder! i still do wonder.

I had 6 obese girl friends and 4 chubby ones they all got married while those girls from high school they are still single – i wish they get engaged soon .. and now out of our group one chubby girl (actually she is bigger than i am but she got covered and saved her fat from sparkling) is getting married soon too and not to forget i got married too. For some reason all the 10 fat girls bonded very well together even though we had very different backgrounds but our heavy looks made us understand each other very well.

One of the obese girls got married through family, her cousin. The rest of us got married from a pre-marriage relationships some were love others were attraction. The funny thing we all married athletes too ! how awkward specially in Kuwait athletic men usually have those certain modlish girls in their arms and they never respect girls like us.

Look at us today!

Even though i have some anger issues with my husband i still see the love sparks between us.

Now the question is, what is it about us that our men chose us? what is in common between our men? And how are they different from other Kuwaiti men?

Here is what we decided to do, each one of us decided to ask her hubby “why did you chose to marry me and not a modelish looking girl? The answers had one thing in commen, they all agreed that if they became muscular then we can be thin. Which i thought that is very fair from our hubbies side and very sweet.

Now here is my question to you, what about big women and Obese women that others don’t like?


  1. i’m your friend… i am ba6a and not married :P~~~

    Ok i don’t like it because of many reasons:
    1. it gives me a feeling that his person is very emotional and doesn’t have guts to do what they really want.
    2. they get tired fast
    3. they are highly risked for diseases
    4. shopping is really difficult
    5. being fit= being strong.

    but i don’t mind marrying a heavy man.. if he had a nice personality because its true i understand the fact the who gained it can lose it with a bit of courage and support.

    Dearest Judy you know all what you said isn’t true, your self you take a very good care of your look and health you never get tired , you are always energetic and disease free! and you are very strong.. so how do you think otherwise??
    I haven’t met anyone with guts like you.. give me a break girl!

    holler girl šŸ™‚

  2. Wow thats amazing! That really put a smile on my face.
    Ppl say looks matter, bs i swear at the end of the day it really doesnt.
    Ive been thin all my life, my friends and family always said i was going to be the first to get married.
    Not yet married. And i am considered one of the ‘last girls’.

    What does that tell u?

    Looks dont matter.

    Dear Delicately Realistic, i have to go back to the old myth and say na9eeb, even though i don’t believe in na9eeb. To tell you the truth i had to atha7ey in many things i wanted in a future husband but it turned out well.
    I doubt you are the last girl, i saw your pic’s on Judy’s facebook you are one hell of a lovely women,.. shino mayshofoon il reyayeeel ??!!!

  3. Sometimes I think its hard for people to lose weight. I can’t really judge because il7imdila I have had the same body for years, ya3ni I go up and down in weight but its not huge.
    I had a couple of overweight friends in HS but we never really talked about their weight, it was an off-limit subject. But i know that for one of them it was very hard to lose the weight, and her weight gave her a lot of health problems that is why she got the gastric bypass done. Now she has lost i think 50 kg and feels much better.

    There was an episode on Oprah about obesity and how people treat obese people, and it was always on the news in the US.

    Obesity is not healthy, it brings about a lot of illnesses. Just like being too skinny and not eating healthy enough.

    Dear Chrip,
    You are right everything over the extreme is unhealthy, still it doesn’t mean obese people should be looked at in the way you said. Talking about obesity in the US is nothing like the Obesity we have in Kuwait, people in Kuwait are very clean and take some good care of their body as well as their looks..some people are obese due many problems psychological and physiological. Now here is my question , why people specially men hate obese girls or they ignore them? is it because it isn’t healthy as you said?

  4. ola kil hatha ana!!!
    la yuba ana kambal o chocolate.. la et6al3een esha3at..
    i think otherwise den das ist nicht gut Frau McSea .. Oel nicht gut it doesn’t sell LOL!

    Zeenooo come over here.. come to TO i need you … lo3a il dera ta3alay saway feeha jaw.. LOL!

    you are right fat doesn’t sell!!!! intay 3amya… don’t you see KFC?! isn’t it just fat and selling very well!
    this just explains how women are superficial in Kuwait, because for fixed marriage they never chose chubby ones šŸ˜‰ wela shrayech.
    EEEEEh i really want to come.. i miss you tons and i miss fall in TO .. let me see hubbz maybe we will.
    I wish i was there for you.

  5. I really like your blog, Zeena. You have one of the most honest, authentic voices in the Kuwait blogosphere.

    I’ve been thin and I’ve been heavy. Yo Yo’ing is about one of the worst things you can do. I really really like being thin, but it takes a lot of time and energy, for me. It doesn’t come easy. Sometimes, I just think it’s too hard.

    My dentist tells me I have some gum problems that relate to too much dieting. You really have to diet smart, if you diet. I thought I did, but I guess I didn’t.

    Thank you very much dear intlxpatr for your kind sweet words.
    I have made a concept, if i don’t take care of my health and invest my time in my self before anyone else, then i am not doing any good to the ppl around me and i don’t worth being around them. Now having my little family, i fight for my workout hours even i started to do it with my husband which is even better.
    I hope i am a good diet.. mine didn’t say anything about my gums.

  6. how can you be friends with such people!!!

    Thank you for your concern, they are good friends and we live in a democratic country, so i can’t hold their tongues out šŸ™‚ IF it wasn’t for what they said, i wouldn’t be who i am today

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